The most common question I get from people who are looking to get into healing for themselves is, “Where do I start?” That’s a great question and I have a very simple answer for you. Inner Child Healing.
Our deepest wounds and core beliefs are formed from within the womb through childhood and into young adult. In this time we form our view of the world and our place in it. If you have a lot of abuse or neglect during this time you form wounds that follow you into adulthood and cause triggers that can be unbearable and destructive on ourselves and those around us.
If your mom had a lot of stress and fear, or unfortunately, experienced physical abuse during pregnancy you may have formed the belief that you did not deserve to be her and the world is unsafe. If your mom wasn’t capable of nurturing you the way you needed once you were born that belief will have been reinforced and cemented into your psyche. If your parents were neglectful you will have formed anxious attachment, low self worth, and feelings of being undeserving.
The majority of our triggers and dysfunctional coping styles were formed in early childhood.
Inner child exercise
Create an inner world for your inner child where you would have felt safe and loved to be as a child. Create the perfect place for your inner child. Visualize it in as great a detail as you can. If you don’t visualize well making a vision board to reference would be helpful.
In this safe space invite in a protector for your child if they want one. Just ask. Invite in parents if they want them. If they do, see them and his/her surrogate parents. If they reject having interaction with parents then keep trying. Eventually they will be ready. Once they are ready for parents see them doing things that are fun, things that you would have liked at that age. See them holding you and loving you. It would be a great idea for you to hold them hug them and tell them you love him and you accept them as they are.
Keep adding details every day and Keep working with them until they don’t show up anymore. You only need to invite in the parents and protector once. They will stay.